the apparent selfishness

April has been a hectic month. 3 weeks in China and only a week in M’sia. I thought things would change for the better — but apparently, in most parts, it hasn’t.

At work, the act of selfishness has become more and more apparent in the behaviors of practically every human. By every human, I mean every single freaking human — Asians AND Westerners. It has become so apparent that things at work have become rather personal — it’s no longer just business, it’s personal. I had my share of being forced to work with a pool of Americans who were practically selfish jerks. Were they behaving like this before the whole economic crisis? No (or at least it wasn’t apparent). Why are they behaving like this now? To survive — to make sure that we Asians, the cheap labors, do not take over their job, with the company still actively running the cutting cost activities.

When I reflect on the whole situation, is there really a need to be this selfish? I was talking to a manager a couple of days back and he was telling me that the situation in the states is really bad. Everything is filled with negativity. The media is practically reporting negative stuff everyday. I bet with the recent Swine flu outbreak, it will not make the situation any better. Nevertheless, at this point, would being selfish help? Shouldn’t we throw individualism out the door and start behaving like collectivist in some ways? Shouldn’t we stick together, and try to break through this huge obstacle — TOGETHER?

I’m not saying that I’m absolutely correct. These are just my thoughts and how I would feel. As I’ve mentioned before in one of my previous post, I’m watching my spending as well. This economic downturn is impacting me one way or another. I have commitments most recently that is somewhat stressing me out in terms of monetary as well. But no matter how bad the situation, I don’t believe being selfish would help. Yes, it is a bad time. But I’m sure there is still some amount of light in this bad moments. Why should we start building these walls around us, start being defensive and practice individualism more than we use to? I thought it should be a time to help one another. Being selfish wouldn’t help in making project succeed at work. It just makes it the more difficult to work as a team. It flushes success down the toilet.

Maybe, I’m still naive to believe that there is a slightest chance for people to be not all that selfish, especially during bad times. True colors were surfaced during these couple of weeks and it is not a pleasant sight. In fact, it’s nasty. The workplace is now a war arena. I go to work packed with a gun filled with bullets. Camouflage attire is optional though. But most of all, I feel horrible. It is bad enough to have a sucky job, but to top it up with sucky attitudes around me in every single project that I’m working on right now — it is a feeling no word can describe. I guess that’s why I’m so physically AND mentally drained out.

It is a tough time for most of us. I hope everyone pulls through. I still believe that God would not give us something that we cannot handle. I know mel believes in that too.

As for my personal life…

*shrug*. Nothing much to say there. And today is the last day of April. 4 months has gone by in 2009. Has things gone better?

Dreaming of a break.

5 Responses to “the apparent selfishness”


  • i dont know who whether it is a good move to blog what you have just blogged.

  • ndru, any particular reasons?

  • I believe that for every action there is a reaction… ; )

    “In this world nothing happens to a person that he does not for some reason or other deserve. Usually, men of ordinary intellect cannot comprehend the actual reason or reasons. The definite invisible cause or causes of the visible effect is not necessarily confined to the present life, they may be traced to a proximate or remote past birth.”

    “All living beings have actions as their own, their inheritance, their congenital cause, their kinsman, their refuge. It is Karma that differentiates beings into low and high states.”

    “Karma does not necessarily mean past actions. It embraces both past and present deeds. Hence in one sense, we are the result of what we were; we will be the result of what we are. In another sense, it should be added, we are not totally the result of what we were; we will not absolutely be the result of what we are. The present is no doubt the offspring of the past and is the present of the future, but the present is not always a true index of either the past or the future; so complex is the working of Karma.”

  • yea mel. i think karma is something so powerful. and i guess sometimes it’s just difficult to accept.

  • thought i’d share this from a blog that i stumbled upon…

    taken from http://www.ckliio9.com/ Confessions of a Sneakerhead

    Big Letdown

    Why is it that the people whom you care for and love are the ones that disappointment us the most?

    I am not saying I have never disappointed any of those I love; God knows I have had my fair share of them but when the disappointment is brought up by casual callousness, it’s definitely harder to swallow.

    The very fact that they acted without any regards or thoughts to what you would feel is just a huge disappointment. I have always tried to put myself in my loved ones’ shoes when I do something and this helps me think and come up with better decisions.

    And you’re supposed to be smart. If only you could do the same thing.

    *Shakes head in disappointment*

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