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what would you do?

Published on May 7, 2012 in life, me, people and thoughts. 0 Comments Tags: , , .

You know how everyone tells you it’s important to help others who are in need? You know how we have, in some ways or another donated some money to the orphanage or participated in helping with some of the cleaning activities at an old folks’ home? I’m sure most of us have contributed in some ways to help others when in need. Or have we?

Yesterday, as we were walking up the stairs to a bank, we met a lady that is paralyzed. One of her leg is gone. I couldn’t see if she is born that way or it has been amputated later in life. She was using her hands and butt to move herself, slowing inching over to the ATM. The man she was with did not help in anyway. He stood with his arms crossed, watching her from afar.

I wanted to use the ATM as well but I waited for her to pick the ATM she wanted to use and I’ll just use the other one. She asked me if this is the machine to withdraw money. I said yes. I saw as she slowly picked herself up, kneeling in front of the machine, trying to do what she had to do. I was done in a flash and was waiting for ndru to be done.

Suddenly, we heard a cry for help.

“Please, can someone help me. Please.”

There were 5 people in the bank at that time, me included. No one made a move.

“Can someone help me, please.”

I looked away. I was dying to help, but something in me made me stop. I looked outside the bank and found the man she was with went down the stairs, again with arms crossed, waiting for her.

She wasn’t in her best condition. Aside from being paralyzed, it is pretty obvious that she has not showered for days. Her clothing is not good either and there is a chance she may have been an abused victim.

We walked away after we were done. I genuinely feel bad for not helping her. But I was scared that she may just be an act and that I would be harmed for being good. It’s not an excuse, but I really couldn’t bring myself to helping her. Till now, I still feel bad.

:(

I guess I’m not that good of a person after all. I’m still learning. Perhaps it was coz I was judgmental. The man with the crossed arms made me fear her.

I’ve been wondering, if given a chance to turn back time, would I have done differently? What about you? Would you have done different from what I did?

is it me?

Published on February 20, 2012 in people and thoughts. 0 Comments Tags: , .

There are many things I have yet to be able to understand about our society and one of those many things happen to be a possession of proper, good manners. Why is it so difficult for someone to behave in a well-mannered way? Why? Is being polite too big of a thing for one’s ego to handle? As you can tell, I can’t seem to comprehend this entire situation in a logical manner.

I just can’t.

It has come to my conclusion that it is indeed something really difficult for one to understand that in life, one of the crucial things one need to take note of, and it is a thing that can and have the power to get you places, is to have a good attitude. Without a good attitude, you are going nowhere. Unless maybe you have an IQ of a genius that it doesn’t really matter anymore if you are an annoying, OCD person like Sheldon in the Big Bang Theory. Your brain is all everyone wants. Otherwise, you are going nowhere if you are rude.

But seriously, does it really take a lot of effort to be nice? To be polite? To be well-mannered? Is it that difficult to a point where it is close to impossible for most humans to embrace it? Or maybe one simply thinks they are too good for anyone but themselves? Or…

You know what, this list could go on forever. I could be asking why until the cow comes home, and I’m still not going to get an answer. Final conclusion to end all of this, maybe it is me.

Besides, who cares really? It’s not that these rude people are going to rule my life. Oh well. Humans. ;)

p/s: If you think you’re smart, I hope you will be in a realization that there will be another human that would be smarter than you. Just a note to those who thinks highly of themselves.

moral – nil.

Published on December 26, 2011 in life, me, people and thoughts. 0 Comments Tags: , .

So our society is now filled with highly educated people, smart geniuses walking down the street. There’s just one problem – most of us don’t even know how to be a human being a.k.a having proper ethics. We suck when it comes to just being a human, with all the necessary kindness, empathy and being ethically proper. I mean we are a bunch of highly educated people. Since when should moral be thrown out the window once we get educated?

I’m not saying people in the past are not engrossed with power, fame and money. It’s a human thing. We have this greed growing inside of us and if we don’t stop it, it grows out of hand. What I’m saying is, it’s disgusting to see how humans these days being so immoral when it comes to treating other people. Why? It’s not like we are ask to donate 80% of what we earn to charity. All we are asked to do is to be nice. Genuinely. Not faking it, not being an ass, just being another human being. What’s so difficult about that?

The group of people that disgust me most, is the group that has participated in learning about the teachings of a religion. The political issues that you see happening at a buddhist temple or a church is more than the issues you see in our government and at work combined. It’s sick. I thought these people who has learned would know what it’s like to treat another human with great respect, no?

I don’t know. It’s sad. Yes, I understand that everyone is selfish. But I don’t believe in living a live without proper ethics. It’s actually more tiring to do bad things than to do good. So why not do good?

Well, this is just my own thoughts.

loving him

Published on November 28, 2011 in love, me and thoughts. 0 Comments Tags: , .

Being in a relationship requires a lot of hard work. It requires a lot of compromising, understanding the needs of one another and unlimited tolerance. Most importantly, it requires endless love and 101% of trust for one another.

The question has always been if you can continue to love him for 10 years, 30 years or 50 years and more, if our feelings will change eventually, if one will get bored with the relationship. Being in the now sometimes do make you ponder if the relationship will fall apart someday. Whether it’s because of him, or you, or basically just both parties.

And then that’s when one resolves to love. I know many has said that love is not everything. But if you think from the perspective of you taking certain actions because of love, love becomes all there is to a relationship. If there’s no love whatsoever, the actions that you take, the things that you do doesn’t really mean much, does it?

And then there’s trust. That one thing which is so difficult for one to earn yet many have chose to break it. Why? Beats me. A white lie is still a lie you know. Just because it’s white does not make it any much better.

It takes a lot of hard work to make a relationship work. Nonetheless, the core to making it work rolls down to love and trust. If the love and trust is all strong, working on a relationship wouldn’t be all that tough anymore. It really does come naturally.

p/s: I love you.

your england is very the powderful

Published on November 10, 2011 in thoughts. 0 Comments Tags: .

English, it is still an international language, whether we like it or not. Yes, although China is coming on strong as an important player in the world, it still does not change the fact that English is an international language. It is one very important language. Perhaps things may change in the future, but for now I don’t think it would. To have the Star reporting out that the English standards of undergrads in Malaysia is still not up to par is a sad matter.

So why is our English not up to par?

Here is what I think.

In Malaysia, the fact that the subjects taught in school are being taught in the Malay Language has become a concern raised by many. I personally do not believe this is the MAIN problem of our countries’ English deficiency problem although I know many may beg to differ. I think the problem is, we Malaysians, directly (or indirectly) love Manglish (the Malaysian English) and uses Manglish way too often to a point where it is in our blood. We then converse in Manglish, formally or informally. The problem is Manglish is broken English. Period.

How are we going to improve if we are not forced and trained to speak proper English? Especially when ‘la’s and ‘ma’s are being used sparingly in every conversation we have? It’s not that we can’t speak Manglish. We can. After all, it is part of our culture. But this is provided if we have had sufficient practice on speaking proper English and we can converse properly when necessary. It all comes with practice and putting effort into it. Practice, practice, practice.

And then there’s using Manglish in local advertisements. I was most annoyed. I don’t know how many ‘la’s and ‘ma’s and some of the wrong terms that were incorporated in the advertisements. Why? Just coz it’s catchy? But would this create an impression that Manglish is the way to go? That it is not entirely important to ensure that proper English is used? Simply because it’s not in our culture to speak without ‘la’s?

I don’t know. My analysis may be all wrong. Maybe it’s just me. Maybe everyone is doing fine speaking Manglish, or broken English for that matter. Don’t get me wrong. My English is not perfect. It is nowhere near perfect. I speak Manglish too whenever necessary, coz after all it is in the culture right? Having said that, I know that it is important to constantly brush up on our English, ensuring proper English is spoken. I’m still learning and I’m still trying to improve in any way I can.

English is not most Malaysian’s first language. But that does not give us a reason to not make a point to learn good English.

Again, this is purely my thoughts. Don’t get offended.

:)

p/s: I’m having a long weekend breakie!! But I do need a holiday though. Beach holiday maybe? ;)

ignorant

Published on November 1, 2011 in me, people and thoughts. 0 Comments

We know about the people who are suffering from hunger in poor countries. We know about the people who are going through poverty. We know about the people who is dying of an illness, failing to get the medical attention as needed. We know about the people who have to deal with natural disasters, having their homes destroyed. We know about the people who tries really hard to earn enough money to cover the bare necessities of life.

We know. Or so we thought we know.

Honestly, we don’t know until we’ve seen it for ourselves. Not watching these things on TV or the internet mind you. It is experiencing and seeing it for yourself. It really does give you a whole new perspective to life. You hear their voices, telling you how they feel when they are punished, or when they don’t get enough money, or when the food that is served are rotten and basically inedible, or that the norm is to not have any form of safety protection in a place they call home. It is sad.

And then I log on to Facebook and read about all the smallest whining you can ever imagine. Me included. This whole experience hit me real hard. The things I’ve learned for the past 2 days have made me realized about the matters that I have been ignorant of. It has made me think more and understand about what life really means. To me. And to the people in the rest of the world.

We don’t know how it feels. That is until you hear the people who speak to you, sitting 2 feet away from you, to be able to feel their expression and their frustration, and to witness all of the things they have spoken about. It is a feeling beyond despair.

Well, yea. I’m glad that I get to go through this experience. It has been good.

p/s: ONE!

speak out loud

Published on October 15, 2011 in life, me, thoughts and work. 2 Comments Tags: , , .

It is important to have passion in the job one’s doing. To be doing something you’ve got no passion for can be a huge waste of one’s life. I mean, seriously.

So we continue on in our search for THE passion, we tell ourselves not to settle if it’s not something we want to do for life, or it’s not a job we have passion for. But what is it that we do in this search? Do we just look around with our eyes? Do we just sit on it when we find a job we think we may want to do but we think it may not be the right timing to speak to that person? Do we sulk when someone else gets that job? I mean, what is it that we really do when we say we are “searching for THE passion”?

It hit me recently that sometimes, what I really had to do was to ask. To talk to people. To speak up. There’s really nothing to lose, is there? And I’m not saying to talk specifically about a job. Even through general cliche topics during daily conversations can you start to learn the things that is out there that may just be the thing for you. THE passion.

I talk a lot. But sometimes, when it comes to work, I wouldn’t typically want to speak to anyone about what I love doing. And what I don’t. I don’t know what made me start talking about what I would love to do to several people recently, but little did I know just by speaking to someone can be viral. It spreads. The behavior, the ideas, the personality that you’ve shown will eventually land on someone’s lap who just may have a form fitting job for you.

I’m not saying I’ve found my passion for now. Having said that, I’m currently taking that first step but simply doing what I do best – speaking to people.

If you don’t speak up, no one will hear you. No one will know you. Speaking to the appropriate person at the appropriate time about the appropriate topic can sometimes do wonders you can never imagine would happen in a million years. I think this is the whole idea of connecting the dots. You can’t connect the dots now, coz it wouldn’t make sense at all. So, with a little faith, trusting that certain little actions that you do today will get you somewhere tomorrow, and that everything will work out just fine.

Coz if it’s not okie, it’s not the end, right?

 

loving what you do

Published on October 6, 2011 in me, thoughts and work. 0 Comments Tags: , .

Is it so difficult to find the job that you love? Why is searching for that passion such an easy task for some, but for others, it appears to be the world’s most difficult task?

So, what is it that I am really passionate about?

I’ve been beating myself up, asking myself this very question countless times. I do have an answer, but I think I’m not quite ready to execute it. Which makes it even tougher. Perhaps I’ve just got to speed things up. How? I’ve got to think it over again.

It is so important to do what you love to do. If we have a 9-5 job, we are practically spending half the day working. If we don’t love what we do and are not happy with what we are doing, we are basically wasting our time. We are throwing our happiness away. At least that’s how I feel. I can’t go on throwing my happiness away right?

But all these is easier said than done. Having said that, it can be done. It’s a matter of stepping out of our comfort zone, making sure it’s done.

A quote by Steve Jobs which I almost forget that relates very well to this post:

The only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.

-Steve Jobs

So yea, I won’t settle. I’ve been on a mission in search of my passion for a while now. I haven’t exactly found it yet, but I won’t settle.

P/S: On a side note, Steve Jobs, may you RIP.

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