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I love checking out blogs. I find certain write-ups really meaningful and somehow or rather gives you that instant KAAPOW effect; a.k.a blowing-you-off-the-chair effect. Today, that something I read was found in THIS blog. Well, technically speaking, the KAAPOW effect came from something the wife said.

Here’s the excerpt from his blog;

There was one time someone asked Sara, “Is it OK, after you’ve married, that the wife to have a close male friend, coz he’s like the bestest of friend since forever?”

Sara just replied, “If that guy is the bestest of friends, why the heck didn’t she marry him in the first place?? Your hubby is SUPPOSED to be your bestest friend. Period.”

It is one of those beliefs that I have held on to me dearly since I-don’t-know-when. Yes, like what Sara has said, your hubby is SUPPOSED to be your bestest friend. Why marry someone whom you cannot talk to as a best friend, and having this need to find your so-called bestest GUY friend to pour your heart out to?  It clearly does not make any SENSE to me.

Maybe emotional connection and having conversations that 2 people can share is so very important to me. I always think if 2 people cannot connect emotionally, then it is all about physical attraction. Physical attraction doesn’t really last all that long. It wears off eventually and when you still cannot be emotionally connected, that is when all the problems arise.

I think one is really lucky if one can eventually marry a person whom he or she can call their bestest friend. That’s what matters most at the end of the day — a friend you can count on. Plus side to that is you’re so madly in love with him (vice versa).

Let me leave you a quote; a quote that I’ve always loved. A quote so true that it has never failed to slap me in the face everytime I read them.

“Wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you’re just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky his is to have you…. The one who turns to his friends and says, ‘that’s her.”